For Fuck's Sake Friday: Women.

There is a problem. 

A big problem. 

Well OK it isn't that big of a problem. 

It is an issue that needs to be dealt with.

Women. I love you all dearly, as long as you aren't stupid. The problem is a lot of you are.

I'll admit that "ARE stupid" and "DO stupid things" are different. Here are some quotes from some people more famous than I am. Famous people have to know their shit right?

Forrest Gump's Mom: "Stupid is as stupid does."

Batman: "It's not who I am underneath, but what I do that defines me."

So eventually when you continue to DO stupid things it eventually defines you as BEING stupid, I didn't make the rules, Batman and Forrest's Mom did.

I read a lot of blogs written by women. In fact most of the blogs I read are from women. I grew up surrounded by women. I'd like to think I understand women. I'm wrong, but I like to think it.

There are certain stereotypes that are applied to women.

"Blondes are dumb." Why discriminate by hair color.

"Women always go for the asshole." It's so true that it makes me wish I was a bigger asshole to women.

"Women are more emotional than men." This one I'm going to have to say is situational.

Now that I've gone on a rant and probably lost a few followers (probably women being too emotional) I'm going to explain myself.

I read an article today called "Does Atheism Have a Misogyny Problem?" (read it) Surprisingly it isn't the Atheism that I want to talk about.

In the article, a woman, at an atheist conference, was approached in an elevator at 4 am and was asked a question. "Hey, I find you really interesting and was wondering if you'd like to join me in my room for a coffee so we can talk more." This was after they had hung out all night at the bar.

The problem I have is this turned into a huge issue that was debated on for a while. What was the debate? Was this man out of line? Where did this debate start? The woman in question said that it was wildly inappropriate and creepy. Other people said that it was a non issue. Que Shitstorm. It's the fact that the woman wouldn't let it go and escalated the situation into a massive scandal that I have the bases to call her stupid.

I'm going to go out there and say For Fuck's Sake woman, take a compliment and deal with it.

If the roles had been reversed or twisted just a little bit so that it was me in the elevator and a gay man (larger than I am, it plays a role in why the woman was uncomfortable) were to come up to me and say the same thing. If I reacted the same way she did I'd be labelled intolerant. This woman is either very stupid for being so sensitive to what should be flattering, or brilliant for all the PR that she is getting. I think she is stupid because now everyone else is going to think she is hypersensitive.

Next I touched on this earlier in the stereotypes part. "Women go for assholes."

I hate to over analyze another blogger but it is the most pertinent story I've got at the moment.

LittleMissME lives a life of fun and over the top shenanigans. Kinda like me. That is why I love her.

I'm beginning to question her intelligence though, (sorry) She has this guy that she knows is using her. He basically treats her like property. Does she stand up for herself? Does she kick him in the nuggets? No, she has sex with him repeatedly. (I'm not airing dirty laundry here, you can read all about it on her blog) A couple times I can say is "doing" something stupid. At what point though does she cross that line into "being" stupid?

I understand the need to feel wanted, I do. I also understand what self respect is. So For Fuck's Sake Woman, grow a backbone. Know when to say no to a bad situation.

There, I showed two sides of the same coin. A woman that takes a normal query for a cup of coffee and turns it into a scandal and a woman that throws herself into bad situation after bad situation with the same guy.

I'm sure if I thought about it long and hard for a minute I could come up with other stupid things women do. However this will have to do, I've got work to do.

Disclaimer: I in no way am saying that men aren't stupid and I in no way am saying that I do not do stupid things. 

I know I'm not perfect, my moniker is "Not the Hero" for fuck's sake. 

I am going to say though that I generally learn from my stupid actions. I love learning which is probably why I run head first into whatever situation I can get myself into. The key though, is learning. If you don't learn from your past stupidity then you really are going to continue to be stupid. 

Later Days,

NTH

PS. I actually said sorry, so this has to be my most heartfelt post right?